Bring On the New Year!

Sis 1 here . . .

Sis 2 and I had some "interesting" conversations last night and have been making great plans for 2013.  Cleaning up and cleaning out these last two days of 2012 and gonna kick it the fuck out the door.

Let me be perfectly clear . . . 2012 SUCKED ASS!  Were there good points?  Absolutely, and those good points ROCKED MY WORLD, but . . . overall, glad to see 2012 go.

Plans going ahead in 2013 to live life to the fullest and if anyone doesn't like the decisions that are made, they can suck it.  Remember this . . . and it took me a very long time to embrace this fully . . . you only get one life.  Make it yours.  Be happy and enjoy yourself.  If something makes you unhappy, get rid of it.  If you don't like your job, get a different one.  If you are in an unhappy marriage, fix it or leave it. If you want to live somewhere else, move.  If you want something, whether it be tangible or intangible, go get it.

The bottom line is . . . start thinking about you and what you need to be happy.  So many times, as women and mothers, we put everyone elses' needs above our own.  Guess what?  That doesn't work.  We become disillusioned and unhappy, which in turn makes everyone else unhappy.  So, make yourself happy.  It may be painful at first, for you and for the others in your life, but ultimately, your happiness will lead to their happiness.

Do this . . . pick one thing that you want to change, and take the steps to change it.  I'm not talking about making New Year's resolutions . . . that doesn't work and we all know it.  Just pick one aspect in your life that you want to change.  Think about what your ultimate goal is for that change, and take the steps to make it happen.  You'll see a huge difference in your life.  Once you've got that change done, pick something else to fix or change.  Sometimes you'll have to take baby steps to make lasting changes . . . and that can be painstakingly slow, but take it from me, it is so worth it.  I'll say this . . . 2012 was my painstakingly slow, baby steps year, but I did it and got through it, and I'm already in a  better place for making 2013 great.

So, do something for you.  Make this your year.   Until next time, keep it #sassyandsarcastic.

Merry Christmas

Sis 1 & Sis 2 wishing all of you Merry Christmas to you and yours. Wishing you much love and happiness.

#sassyandsarcastic

In Remembrance

Sis 1 here...

Candles lit in remembrance of Sandy Hook.

Damn Glee

Sis 1 here...

Just watched the Christmas Glee. Damn them I say. Damn them.

Keep it #sassyandsarcastic....

Asshats!

Sis 1 here . . .

I was really trying to stay positive, but to no avail, and here's why.

My cousin, whom I adore, recently sent a message to me and some other relatives because she is going through some rough times financially and doesn't have enough money for Christmas for her three kids.  To ask for help in my family is a big deal because we are all stubborn and hard headed and think we don't need help, so you know she's in need.  So, of course, we are all pitching in.  Keep in mind that this is a young woman who works full-time, went to school full-time, and is raising her kids virtually alone.  She doesn't ask for handout and pays her own way and her kids are intelligent, involved, and just all around great kids.

I sent her a money order for some Boy Scout stuff I had ordered from her and also an AMEX gift card.  She sent me a text today that she got the card I sent her and the money order and gift card are missing!!!! Someone slit the envelope open and took them.  Are you fucking kidding me?  Karma is a real bitch and will catch up with that person . . . and that person better hope Karma finds him/her before I do.  Because, I'm a bigger bitch.

So, then I sent a text to my niece since I sent her a gift card and to a friend who is battling cancer since I sent her a money order--and I sent all this at the same time in the same type of envelopes.  My niece hasn't yet gotten her card and she is a little closer than my cousin.  I haven't yet heard from my friend who is local.

How can people be so damn fucked up?  It's bad enough that it's Christmas and they are stealing, but they are stealing from kids . . . basically, that money was for the kids.  And, they are potentially stealing from the severely ill.  I can't believe how fucked up it is.

I'm not naive . . . I know people are fucked up, but I normally believe the best of people until they prove me wrong.  Today, I'm about to say fuck that and think the worst of people until they prove me wrong.

Until next time, keep it #sassyandsarcastic  . . . from #pissedoffsistercasm

Not Yet

Sis 1 here...

I'm not yet ready to be #sassyandsarcastic today. On this last week of school before Christmas break, I just want to tell you to hug your kids and pray for their continued safety.  Remember those poor families who lost their little angels just three days ago and keep them in your thoughts and prayers.

Until next time, keep it #sassyandsarcastic with love in your heart....

Sad and Disillusioned

Sis 1 here . . .

No rants today, just reflection on the fragility of life.  The elementary school shooting in Connecticut is another in a series of senseless acts of violence in this country.  I could go into the whole issue of gun control, the right to bear arms, and all the other arguments, but they aren’t going to change anything.

Let me state up front that I do believe in the right to bear arms; however, I don’t believe our founding fathers intended that right to be abused by owning semi-automatic weapons and turning them on the innocent.  The right to bear arms was created in a time of war—people needed to be able to defend their homes against invasion.  I still believe they/we have that right.

I also believe in gun control.  There is absolutely no good reason that anyone, other than military and law enforcement should have access to semi-automatic and fully automatic weapons.  There is also no good reason not to do thorough background checks.  If it takes six months to a year to be approved, so be it.  If you don’t have the patience to wait, you don’t have the patience to own a weapon. And sorry, #catscratchfever, you don’t need an AK47 for deer hunting . . . just sayin’.

Having said all that, there are those, that if determined, will find a way to obtain weapons and use them against the innocent.  In the case of yesterday’s tragedy, the weapons were registered to the gunman’s mother, who became his first victim.

Another big issue is access to mental health care.  The articles I’ve read are mixed as to whether the young man had mental disorders.  Let’s just get this clear . . . anyone who can go on a shooting spree like that, especially against young children, has a mental disorder.  Does that make him bad or evil?  Not necessarily.  By all reports, he seemed to be a “nice guy” and smart—an honor roll student when he was in high school.  So, what is the catalyst for someone to get up in the morning, shoot his mother in the face, drive to an elementary school, shoot and kill 28 people (20 of whom are children), before turning the gun on himself?  Would he have benefited from some sort of mental health care?  Did anyone recognize symptoms of mental illness?  Would it have mattered?  These are questions that we will never have answered as the only person that could answer them is dead by his own hand.

 So today, my heart goes out to those who lost loved ones.  I cannot imagine the pain of losing my child in “normal” circumstances, much less to such senseless violence.  But my heart also goes out to that young man that didn’t see another way out and committed the horrible deed.  While I’m sure we are all judging him, his final judgment is not ours to make.

Take a minute to reflect on what you have rather than what you want today--hug your kids, parents, significant others, friends, and family.  Let the people you love know that you love them.  Life is fragile.

 

#sadanddisillusioned at #sassyandsarcastic